As I was driving to work this morning I was perusing my cloudy brain for what I was going to talk about today and the first thing that popped in my head was, I say, “no.” Thank you Nicholas. That is the perfect set up.
As parents we all have our own way of doing things and our own parameters, where we draw the line, etc.
If you believe your child should sleep in his/her own bed then you need to practice that immediately. Kids follow our lead. When they see a window of opportunity or weakness they are going to take full advantage of that. Not to be over dramatic, but they see a weakness and they take you down full force. Come on parents, you know what I mean!
Here goes our story. My husband was out of the country, at a family wedding, and I was single parenting a two year old (Nicholas) and a 6-month old. Nicholas had always been a great sleeper — the 12-hour a night kind — down at 7:00 and up at 7:00. It doesn’t get better than this. Except this particular weekend, so I made the irrational decision that he needed a big boy bed (that second).
My sister and I loaded up to McKinney to find the perfect big boy bed and after lots of shopping we bought it. We then bought a mattress and voila, Nicholas no longer had a crib and now was going to sleep like an angel in a big boy bed.
Seriously, it was not big boy bed and happily ever after. Not yet, anyway. It was tough. Sitting with him to go to sleep and him getting up throughout the night and on and on. Right after Thanksgiving he would go to sleep in his bed and then between 11:30 and 2:30 he would end up in our bed. We didn’t fight it because, well, we were all getting a good night’s sleep. And let’s admit it, at times we are suckers.
Now it is a new year and time to get sleep habits back where they should be. We are starting with the sleep clock and walking him back to his bed when he gets up. He gets the clock and talks about it. Now, let’s see how it works. Here is the clock on Amazon, http://www.amazon.com/Wake-Childrens-Alarm-Clock-Nightlight/dp/B002RNKOM2/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1359731391&sr=8-1&keywords=kids+wake+up+alarm+clock.
If going into week 2 he is still getting up we are going to have to readjust our plan of attack on good sleep habits and probably move to something more aggressive.
I read on one blog about the tape trick. You put down a couple pieces of tape for door positions. Their door starts open and each time they get up it moves closer to being shut and then if they get up a third time, the door is shut for the night. I have heard from other parents that followed this method, the child typically cries themself to sleep the first couple nights and then have it figured out. Read more about it here, http://prudentbaby.com/2010/12/baby-kid/the-tape-trick-2/
So what is my point? Nip the problem immediately. Whatever it is, the longer you let it linger the harder it is to resolve. People told me the same thing and I didn’t listen. Address it immediately and you will probably have 2-3 bad nights vs. months. Stand strong and don’t avoid the inevitible.
Happy Friday Folks and cheers to sleep!